Single and Stable
Hey B.F.F. family,
HAPPY RESURRECTION DAY! What a beautiful day it is!
I don't know about you but after today's sermon, and fellowship with my family I am overjoyed with all the great things God has done for us. Not what He will do but what He has already done for us! For you and me! For my family and your family! Today is truly a day of celebration.
Today, I want to share with you a little about my journey of being a single mom. I have been single for 6 years. Yes, 6 years! And to say I enjoyed every bit of it would be a big lie.
Early in my single season I admired and almost began to idolize those that were getting engaged and married. I too desired to be married, so much I comprised my values, my faith, and myself to be in a relationship. Why wasn't I in a relationship? Why wasn't I traveling around the world with my Bae? God did you forget about me. Maybe I should give my ex a chance. Maybe he was the one. What's wrong with me? Men ain't... You know the rest. LOL!
For years I allowed the enemy to feed me his lies. I didn't see the importance of this time. I wanted to have the ideal family at any cost. For a long time, I missed this great opportunity that was before me. And I share this with you so you don't miss this opportunity.
Being single is not some curse and God has not forgotten about you. I realized that God desired a true relationship with me and during this season I had to take time to nourish it so it could flourish and grow. I had to mature in my relationship with God, and this season of singleness was the best time to do it.
If you are single and dating I want you to consider these things when dating:
1. Do not compromise God's standard or your heart to appease your faith
In God's word, it says to "seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." Matthew 6:33
For so long I was seeking after the approval of others. Seeking after a job, seeking after the relationship but not after God. But I missed that if I sought after God FIRST all the things I desired would be given unto me in His perfect timing.
2. Create a list of Non-Negotiables
A wise woman once told me if you stand for nothing you will fall for anything. And trust me I fell. I fell because I didn't have a list of non-negotiables. Many of the people I dated were not my equal. We were not equally yoked. We did not value the same things. And I put myself through damaging relationships just so I could be in a relationship. It was not worth it!
But with a list of Non-Negotiables, I was willing to pass up good to get to great. I was willing to stand on the word of God and His promises. I was willing to wait on God's best.
3. Write a letter to your future husband
One morning the Holy Spirit instructed me to write a letter to my future husband. Sounds crazy right! Even though I'm not in a relationship, I have the faith God will bless me with my heart's desire. So I challenge you to write a letter to your future husband. Have the faith that all the things you write in this letter will manifest in God's perfect timing. Trust God and have faith!
Don't idolize those relationships around you because being single and stable are goals too! #SingleandStable
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Love and Peace,