Hey, Bff's! It's been two whole months since we launched our blog and decided that we would take this leap of faith and allow you all to join us on this journey. At the beginning of this month, we decided we would focus on our relationships with others, and in the process, it is our prayer that we could give you insight on how Christ has commanded us to relate to one another.
So in saying that, we would like to know if you all have genuinely taken the time to explore our page and genuinely get to know our friendship?!
As we've mentioned before, We are B.F.F's who are Boldly, Freely, and Faithfully living through Christ, and God has allowed us to see each other through some of the toughest times and obstacles we've faced in life. Nevertheless, on the flip side, Brittany and I have been there for each other through the good times as well.
Our friendship spans over two decades, and I believe that Brittany and I will always be friends. Blood couldn't make us thicker, but close friendships don't just happen overnight. Good friendships require work. I've learned that many of us struggle with meeting people that we can develop quality connections with and whom we can genuinely call our friends. It may be because we tend to forget that these relationships rely heavily on reciprocal interactions. You must first show yourself friendly if you'd like friends. Most of us would consider this the hard part of having friendships because it means we would have to take a more in-depth look at ourselves. When we do this, then questions like this may arise. Am I genuinely showing myself friendly? What roles have I played? How have I contributed to the dynamics of this friendship? Am I giving this friendship my all? Have I treated such and such the way I want to be treated? These are the hard questions that we must ask ourselves. Brittany and I's friendship isn't perfect, but it's real. We don't always see eye to eye, but we do what it takes to make our friendship last. In Ephesians 4:32, the Bible says: Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, Just as in Christ God forgave you. So when problems arise in our friendship, we have to step back and see things from the other person's perspective. Our Problems can't be solved on the level in which they were created, so in other words, you can't solve human problems with human solutions. The way our friendship has lasted all these years is because we must extend the same grace Christ extends to us. While we no longer live in the same city as one another, we still call each other often to check-in or to see how one another is doing. No matter how much time has gone by or the amount of distance that is between us, we still know when something is up with one of us, and we call each other out when we know something isn't right. We do not sugarcoat or fake the funk with each other. We keep it real! In the message Bible, in Ephesians 4:31, it breaks this down. Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another and sensitive. This means that we understand the importance of being sensitive to one another's needs. In our friendship or any friendship, for that matter, there will be moments and times when we may need space to clear our minds, but there will also be a time when to step in and be there. No matter what, we rely on this principle, and that is to love each other in the same way that Christ has loved us. I believe there are many benefits to having friendships like this, and those good friends will help you reach your goals. They will also sustain you through every difficult time and expand your thinking as it pertains to your self-worth. I am forever grateful for the bond that Brittany and I share. We are locked in for life.
So B.F.F.'s remember Friendship lane is a two-way street, and to build and have friendships, we must first show ourselves friendly, which shouldn't be hard because we have sole control over how we act and treat others. Maintaining good friendships is essential; Genuine friends alleviate stress, give comfort and joy, and counteract loneliness and isolation. So take some time to click on this link or the FRIENDSHIP GOALS TAB in the drop-down menu and explore the pages associated with it. Take some time and actually read Brittany and I's letter to each other. Look at our pictures and be encouraged! Real friendships are possible. Our mission and purpose of starting Boldly, Freely, and Faithfully living is to share our journey with other women that are working towards being great mothers, friends, and women of God. By sharing our stories with you, we pray that it not only blesses you but also encourages you to continue striving for the greatness that God has placed in you. Until next time, with love, grace, and a happy face, remember we love yall.