Hey B.F.F. sisters! What a week! And what a great weekend. I don't know about you and your family but my family's weekends are always jammed back with sports, birthday parties, church, and if I can squeeze in a Sunday afternoon nap I can call that a pretty good weekend.
As we are entering into the last week of February I quickly begin to reflect over the last month and assess how well this year has gone so far. And I must say it's off to a pretty good start. However, if I can be 100% honest with you all, there were a few days that were pretty difficult. And somehow those days stick out more than the good.
I don't know about you but I've often set these unrealistic expectations for myself and the moment I can't reach them I beat myself up for it. Yes, I know it sounds ridiculous but I know many of us can relate. (Hi! My name is Brittany and I have a problem.)
Especially, as parents, as single parents, we feel like we must do it all. We must be at every game. We must be at every program. Our child/children must be apart of everything. But this past weekend made me very grateful for two very important things.
My parents recently came to visit to see my children play in their last basketball game. We were up and ready to go to the games. I was taking the twins to their game and my parents were taking my son to his game. From what I had written on our calendar they all played at the same time but at separate locations. But I was wrong. My parents had arrived at the gym and saw no one on my son's team. I checked the schedule on my phone and saw that the game was earlier that day. So my son missed his game. Instantly, disappointment swept over me, and I felt like a failure. I had let so many people down.
I'm sure you're like, Brittany that's not a big deal. But I say that and share that with you to show you how quickly the enemy will take that one moment to feed you his lies. The lies that you are a failure. You are no good. You aren't a good parent. But remember! These are all lies! And you cannot water those lies by repeating them in your mind. You must cast them out immediately.
I am grateful that my tribe is so strong. I thank God that they often stand in the gap. My parents didn't have to take my son to his game but they did. They could have responded differently when they found out he missed his game but they didn't. They support my children at their sporting activities, choir, and music programs. They encourage and support me through and through.
It is important for you to have a strong tribe. As a single parent, we must give ourselves grace. This is something that I am learning to do each day. We must understand that this was never how God designed raising a child, but He blesses us and gives us so much grace in spite of it.
Surround yourself and your children with people who will encourage you. People who will step in and fill in the gap. Those who will help to weed out the enemy's lies. Those that will help to plant Godly seeds in your child. Surround yourself with wise individuals.
Alone you are vulnerable to the enemy's attacks so stand strong with your tribe. Lean on them when you need them.
I hope this helps to encourage you. If it does share it with a friend!
Until next time, Peace!