This week on our blog we wanted to dive into another topic of relationships. This relationship is the second most important relationship you will ever have. This relationship is with yourself.
As I mentioned in last week's post, "Single and Stable" being single is okay!
It's honestly better than okay, but don't get me started. If you haven't had a chance to read it definitely check it out!
I honestly believe that your single season is the most undervalued season of someone's life. This is the time for you to love yourself 1000%! Find out what you desire. Figure out who you are. This season is a time to learn how to truly love you.
As a teacher and mother, I see the way children interact on a daily. And it often takes me back to when I was a kid. How I interacted with other children. How I dealt with the name-calling or girl drama at school.
Growing up in elementary I was always one of the tallest girls in school. I had big feet, big hands, and some would say a deep voice for a young girl. And of course, these things quickly turned into insecurities of mines. However, I was well-liked in school and performed well so I didn't give a lot of attention to these insecurities a whole lot but of course, they were always in the back of my mind.
Earning merits and excelling in school quickly equated to value. I performed well in school, in sports, in church and I saw this as a means of value. I was liked by many and when I achieved it felt good to receive the praise even if for a moment.
At the age of 19, I became pregnant with twin girls. I felt like the weight of the world was on my shoulder. I felt ashamed. I hung my head low. I thought I had disappointed so many people. Ultimately my parents and God. I could never right my wrongs. How could I?
Three short years later I would bring yet another child into the world.
The guilt, the shame, the feeling of disappointment hung over me for many years. I thought if I worked really hard I could earn God's love back and my parent's love. I worked in hopes that I could remove the stamp of disapproval from my name. But as I have come to learn more about God there is nothing I can do to earn his love. Because He loves me just as I am.
So I wanted to draft a letter to my younger self, to the young mother that felt ashamed for so long. So she realizes the choices she made were all apart of God's plan for her life. There is nothing you need to do to earn God's love. He loves you in spite of all the wrong you will do.
So B.F.F. ladies, I challenge you to also write a letter to your younger self.
What would you write?
What would you tell the young girl to encourage her?
Let us know in the comments below.
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Love and Peace
Until next time!