Hi, B.F.F followers, my name is Bre'Gail & I am excited to embark on this Bold, Freely and Faithfully living through Christ journey with you, but before we begin, I just want to give you a little backdrop on my life. I currently work as a para-educator in a local high school in KS, and I am a semester away from completing my bachelors to become a teacher.
I grew up in a single-parent home with my mother and my two sisters. My mom is and will always be my (s)hero! She laid down a strong foundation of love and wisdom to trust in the Lord. She kept us in the church house, and as the Bible says " Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it". Proverbs 22:6. I've never strayed away from Christ, and in fact, now I've called on him more than ever. As a child, my dad wasn't around as much as I would have liked, but as I grew up, things begin to change, and I have a great relationship with him, and I love him dearly.
My mom has always been the constant parent, and now that I have children of my own, Adrian and Aaron, I too am raising them alone as a single parent. I never imagined I would have to parent alone, and I most certainly didn't choose to be a single parent, although I understand that the decisions I've made as a young adult and the different circumstances of which I've had no control over have led me to where I am today.
The journey wasn't easy, but it wasn't all bad either. My fairytale just did not turn out as I expected. I had hoped that I wouldn't be doing it alone. Unfortunately, that's not the way the cookie always crumbles. Once my children's father and I went our separate ways, I always felt like my kids were missing out on something with not having their father around or so easily accessible because he no longer lived with us.
But had it not been for God,
as I sit back and ponder what I could have done and so many of the “if only” questions and so on. The truth is, I did what I could. There was only so much I could've done before I had to let go and let God.
It's not an easy task, but I've watched one of the most influential women I know, my mom endure this storm and raise three beautiful, smart and loving children alone. So I know it's possible with God, and I won't fail!
Do I get discouraged? Yes of course! Many nights I'm overwhelmed, but I keep fighting! My days are long and often busy, but I am doing my best at raising two handsome little boys that I will not let be another statistic.
My children are taught to love and respect others. I teach them that they can do all things through Christ who strengthens them and to never give up. I want my children to know that even though Mommy is raising them in a single-parent household, their daddy still loves them.
As their mother, I do not talk bad about their father. I believe that they will form their own opinion as they get older, but love covers and when you love someone, you do not expose their faults. I am not mad at their father, I still have love for him, and I wish no harm on him. I hold no grudges, and I try to make the best out of the situation at hand! I'm not perfect I'm human. I cry, I get upset, I fuss, and I yell, but I also laugh, rejoice, smile, and take pride in my role as being a mother. So as we go on this journey together, I just want to be real, transparent, and be myself with the hope that my heart transcends through and my testimony blesses you.
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with love, joy and grace